Learning Life Lesson The Hard Way
There is nothing as important as one being able to learn from his or her experience and making sure never to let such things happen to them again.
So today, I will be answering the question that says, What life lesson did you learn the hard way? How did it alter your perception or attitude?
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Funny enough I have a friend who thinks I still have anger issues because of who she knew me to be when we first became friends.
So, before I go on to narrate my story, I will be saying that one of the life lessons which I have learned over the years is Anger management and one of the ways it altered my attitude is by making sure I always have control over my anger no matter what or who is provoking me.
So, I used to be a girl with a short temper and wouldn't spare anyone who tries to get on my bad side. That I know but my younger brother did not know that bad side of me because we never really stayed together while growing.
He came to visit me one year and I wasn't liking most of the behaviors he was putting up because truth be told, I was becoming impatient with his attitude even when I tried to let him know I didn't approve and won't condone his attitude, he never tried changing.
One day, I came back home with the home of eating since I left in the morning to work without taking my breakfast and had rushed back home with the home of eating the food I left behind. I was shocked by my marrow when I realized he had eaten the food without letting me know.
Even when he saw me return from work, toke my bath, rested before going into the kitchen to get my food, he did not dim it fit to let me know there was no food for me to eat. I guess that was what got me worked up because I had warned him severally to always let me in or perhaps if he realizes that he plans to eat what I left behind for myself, he should at least let me know, so I get to plan on what to do but he wouldn't listen.
To say that it was late all ready for me to go out and get something to eat got me even angrier the more that I was already seeing red and was planning in my head on how best to hurt him since he could not see anything wrong with what he did. I got tired of talking and was searching for something heavy to hit my brother but didn't see anything. I just needed to hurt him that I threw my phone at him.
I didn't realize the gravity of what I did until I was able to calm my anger but it was already late because I had damaged my phone beyond my repair.
The worst of all is that my guardian grounded me for a complete year without a phone, I was grounded for letting my anger get the best of me to the extent of destroying my phone in the process.
It wasn't a fun experience for me as I had to go for a year without a phone and my guardian made sure of that and I learned a life lesson, I guess the hard way.
Writing this contest is indeed a wonderful experience has it helped me remember how I started taking control of my anger even though I get angry most times, not to harm anyone or destroying anything.
I invite @udygold and @zellypearl to participate in this contest and here is the link
Be causing commotions with your anger and be destroying things.
Thank God that helped you begin to manage the level of your rage and control your anger.
The anger we used to know back in the days, we shall know them no more😂😂
Thank God you didn't kill the poor boy for eating your food😂
It is not called commotion 🙄, I was only pouring out my feelings. Anyway, glad I was able to manage how I show people my anger.
When you get some older this also will be something that you will need some days and all will be ok , anger is also resolving some pressure inside i have that aswell, and if its handled its ok and allowed.
I love the honesty and the blog thank you for joining and the fact that you made this blog
I wish you well on the journey alles life.
You are right, I will need more of these some days in my growing up. Most times anger comes as a result of pressure and it is not wrong to get angry, it is only wrong when we destroy things or injure people in the process.
Thanks for visiting my blog.
Well sometimes you have to and it’s not wrong to harm people when you are in the truth. Telling the truth will never harm people who are honest.
I love the fact that the rollercoaster called life is the fact we all still learn every day regardless we have
You've said it all and that's what makes life the way it is. Our ability to learn every day and time.
That’s what’s so cool and difficult at the same time.
Have a great weekend dear
😩 No Phone for a Year!?
There is a right time and place for anger but it must be under control and applied strategically with a goal and a way out of the situation. In Japanese martial arts, rules of Bushido requires a Warrior to be in control of his emotions to be effective.
Thank you @evegrace for sharing your experience.
Yeah, for a year. It was a hard one but I had to go by the punishment if I was ready to put my anger under control so that one day, I don't end up using a knife or any sharp object on someone because of anger.
Well, it is good to be under control of your anger as a martial warrior, it helps your opponent not to be able to predict your next move.
Anger tantrums are not easy to control when allowing emotion to take over. Frustration often leads to blind rage when we want to hurt someone else, normally hurting ourselves in the long run.
Punishment of a year is a long time to make sure you remembered not to "lose it"! Frustration leads to this more often than not, most have hit this point in life once or twice, a lovely entry and good reminder in life @evergrace.
It is indeed a long time and I am grateful I went through that punishment even though at some point in time I was becoming aggressive for going without a phone but looking back now, I can say it was worth it.
Thanks for your comment.
We always knew why we had the punishment, no wishy washy rules, you did wrong and learned a tough lesson. Lessons like this go with us throughout our lives 😌
Dah Ikpa did you tell me thank you for inviting you to this contest.
Na only show body u sabi😋😋😋
Let me go before u slap me o
All the same abeg dey calm down small, before anger will make you miss your husband🤗🤗🤗😀😀😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃💃💃💃💃
🙄, no be only anger they make person lose husband sha 😏. Thank you for inviting me.
Lol, kikikiki🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thanks for sharing, @evegrace.
Good luck with the contest.
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Wow this is so funny and is full of lesson, although what your brother did is not good since he knows that you did not eat before going to work and you have been warning him not to eat any food you left behind without your permission.
But that does not make you to got angry to the extent that you will throw your phone now see what the cause you.
That is why we never we are getting angry we just have to calme down ourselves so that we won't over reacted beyond our power, even though you wanted to punish him you should have find a Kane or you use your sander or slippers to beat him instead of throwing your phone at him.
you see now you wanted to hurt your brother but you hurt yourself instead, so that is how life is sometimes we wanted to do something bad thing to someone, but it bounce back on us.
That is why whenever we get angry we need to think twice before we do anything, angry does not bring a good thing but bad thing and at the end people will blame you for your action.
Another lesson is that some people will get angry to the extent what they gather with there sweat for a year they will now destroy it in one day because they're angry that is very bad.
And When they finished destroying those things their eyes will now open, and they will be regret of their actions, that is why God say we should calm down at all time.
As they say not gentleness doesn't mean to stupidity, devil do take chances of anger to destroy home not only material things, he use anger to destroy some people life.
because some people will get angry to the extent that they will kill someone and that will end them in prison we just need to be careful when we are angry.
thank God you have learnt your lesson and you are changed and you ahave really done the best thing so that the devil will not take the chance of you.