The Lies People Tell

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A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get it's pants on.
Winston Churchill


It's a small world I hear people say but then looking at how many people died during the outbreak of the pandemic I don't think the world is all that small. They're a lot of people in this world and yet there's still enough space to accommodate more people. So the world isn't small, it's just us humans lying to ourselves.

How Do You Feel When People Lie To You?

I've been around a lot of people during the two decades of my life and part of the first decade had been lived in complete ignorance. Growing up we believed anything we were told especially by the people we took in high esteem. Our parents actually shaped our lives with their words and actions and without having any choice we had to do whatever they told us.

Some of them lied about almost everything, some regular lies we heard were almost always sexually related. I heard @iskafan say in her post that most girls were told that if they allowed a guy touch them they'll get pregnant, hehe. That was a regular one to keep the girls away from doing anything they shouldn't do.

For some of us, we were told that "all dancers are cultists", "if you allow someone cross you when you're lying down you'll become short", "if you spit on the ground and someone steps on your spit you'll have sore throat or your throat will start paining you", "if you pick any money on the ground you'll turn to an animal".

There were a lot of lies and for this part of our lives I know it is quite understandable that they were meant to keep us from harm and also stop us from making rash decisions. I wouldn't blame our parents who weren't too educated for still trying their best to ensure that they communicated some things to us in ways that were easier for them, planting that fear in our hearts really did the trick.

But then in the next decade of my life, my eye started to open, I started to meet new people and share in different opinions and backgrounds. I guess this is the point you really get to know how life really works. Now we were told lies by our teachers, brainwashing us and leading us down the same path. It was always easy for them to tell us that education is the key to success.

Yes, that wasn't a lie per say but what they lied about was painting it as the only key to success. They didn't tell us that there were other keys to achieving success. I kept on thinking that all the Successful men in the world were all educated and I was going to become as successful as they were immediately i finished my education.

Some of us had talents that would have made us really successful if only we had utilized them on time. I had a friend in junior secondary school who was a guru in making sketches. This guy didn't stress when it came to creating characters from his head and sketching comics. It was from him I got the drive to improve my drawing skills. But then, a teacher found a sketch book of his and beat the life out of him claiming he was wasting the books his parents bought for him.

That action action alone killed his spirit and made him stop drawing. He became moody, very quiet in class and stopped trying althougher. Drawing was his life, it was his joy and it was taken away from him because of their unprecedented actions. It affected me too because i surely didn't want to be a victim of such harsh treatment so I stopped althougher.

When people lie to you and you have no knowledge that their telling lies it's a different feeling althougher. I know I told petty lies when growing up, some of which i did to escape punishment. Untill my Senior Secondary school, I didn't have a heart for telling lies and manipulating people. It was against my principle and against how I was brought up.

But then i received the shock of my life!

In my Ss2, I started to notice that the people who told lies were the ones who received more favour, they were the ones the teachers loved the most. They were manipulative and unscrupulous, playing with everyone's minds and emotions. I hated them and vowed never to be like them. I preferred to live my life and enjoying whatever benefits came with being honest.

Gradually, without even knowing it, I started to feel anger. How would the ones who are the worst kinds of people be the ones getting all the praise and stealing all the girls. Most of the girls I had a crush on left immediately i told them how I felt. Was there anything wrong with telling the truth?. The world certainly is built on lies.

It is actually painful to find out that you're actually being taken for a fool and being manipulated. A lot of people derive joy in leading people down a wrong path and I know that they're reasons for this, some actually find pleasure in it and for others it is circumstances. Some are clouded by greed and the fact that they want to blend in. They want to be the talk of the town, showing off what they don't possess and at the end of they day they end up telling more lies.

I discovered yesterday that a close friend of mine had been feeding me a lot of lies about himself and some other things. I knew him as someone who didn't enjoy talking deep about his personal life and I also suspected that he told some lies. But this one was too much!, Imagine, I'd been believing something and then in a blink of an eye all that belief was proved wrong and made up.

I could have felt hurt and angry but surprisingly I didn't because this wasn't the first time I'd been lied to or manipulated. First real one that hurt me was when it came from my first and only best friend. That ordeal made me harden my heart a bit and I started to lose trust in humans. So when this one happened I wasn't shocked, I was just surprised how well he had successfully manipulated me and a host of others. I laughed, because I was impressed by his act.

But then I can't blame him too much, I've also been in situations where I had to tell lies, some started off as innocent lies untill it grew to something I couldn't control. I felt bad that I had to be pushed so much to that corner where I'll have to play with another person's emotions to survive. When I think about it i feel bad and I pray I don't find my self in such a situation again. I guess life is a use or be used playing field after all. The Squid Game actually opened my eyes to that even more.

A Little Piece Of Advice

Lies always get exposed!

This is what a lot of people fail to understand. Yeah, it feels good telling lies and leading others astray. You might even be at the top of the world, enjoying all the finest things in life as a result of your amazing craftiness. But then, don't be surprised when your lie gets exposed. All the things you've worked for will eventually get crumbled in a blink of an eye, the fame you've built, the fake people swarming around you, the friends and everything will seize to exist. At that moment you'll think back and wish you did better.

Don't expect too much from anybody!!

I try to live my life this way and I must say that it's the best way to go. No one seems to be as he really is, what you're seeing is what the other person shows to you. Try not to carry someone with too much expectation because that person will fail you, be it your close friend or family member. You can see the best in anyone, you can love and care for anyone but don't expect that the other person is expected to reciprocate. Leave your life as happy as you can and love others but never put all your expectations on one person.

Always expect Hurt

I've always tried to avoid being hurt or hurting others but then I don't always get my wish. It always ends up going south and I end up being hurt in the process or hurting someone else. I'm not saying we can't live our lives without getting hurt, obviously we can but then, be prepared for anything!. Always try to be ready for the worst, no matter how everything seems to be going well. I know when I tell others this they tend to disagree with me. I just feel that when you expect something, it doesn't hit you as hard as it'll do when it takes you by surprise.

Don't stop being good to people

I always live by the principle "what goes around comes around" and "do unto others what you what others to do unto you". As simple as they sound they actually work a great deal in our daily lives.

Don't you dare stop being good to people. Shower them with as much genuine love as you can, put a smile on someone's face and be happy. No matter how much pain you feel, you'll see that you'll start to feel better and open to happiness. Nothing beats seeing another person happy, it puts a certain joy in your heart that cannot be comprehended.


I know they're a lot of other things that can be done to avoid being hurt by the people you trust the most. I also know that they're a thousand and one reason that can be given to phantom telling a lie. I just hope we all aren't going to be exposed to a lot of hurt this year.

Thank you for reading through this post ❤️🥺.



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Most of those lies told by our parents were either to scare us into not doing something or prevent us from them, they had good reasons but went about it the wrong way.

It is sad being manipulated but not all lies come out, to be honest some die with people.

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Exactly, some where really in avoiding a lot of mistakes, some even shaped us to be better but a lot of them actually made us live in fear, fear of trying out new things and being ourselves. It was painful and funny to find out that we'd all been played.

It is sad being manipulated but not all lies come out, to be honest some die with people.

Now that I actually think about it, I totally agree with you. Some lies are so properly rooted that it gets hard to expose them. Men, thinking about it dey tire me sef.

Thanks for your comment dear 💯💙

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For some of us, we were told that "all dancers are cultists", "if you allow someone cross you when you're lying down you'll become short", "if you spit on the ground and someone steps on your spit you'll have sore throat or your throat will start paining you", "if you pick any money on the ground you'll turn to an animal".

Hahaha, how about "if you swallow orange seeds, the tree will grow out of your head" 😂😂😂😂

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These are good reflections, it always triggers me to notice how much was taken from us because of those lies.

That about bad people getting the rewards in life is something that always bothered me. Everybody says bad people will have a bad life but I see it always going the other way. People who are very innocent and good are mostly poor and don´t get out of that situation because they truly believe that having money and being successful is a bad thing, they got tricked into that belief.

Those lies that were told to protect us actually made more damage than good, as adults we need to forget about them, to do a whole mindset change, and by the time you make it you have already lost a lot of opportunities out of fear.

I hope this generation who has been waking up to that doesn't raise their children that way. We need good people to believe that they deserve success too and to be aware that there are way too many options to get stuck in an old path that's made to create employees, not free spirits.

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These are good reflections, it always triggers me to notice how much was taken from us because of those lies.

Yeah, when I sit back and think about it, it actually gets to me. To think that we were exposed to a lot of fear and limited because of those lies.

That about bad people getting the rewards in life is something that always bothered me. Everybody says bad people will have a bad life but I see it always going the other way. People who are very innocent and good are mostly poor and don´t get out of that situation because they truly believe that having money and being successful is a bad thing, they got tricked into that belief

You're right! And it gets me annoyed even more. Imagine, taking from the poor and giving to the rich. The poor gets poorer and the rich richer. I wonder sometimes how the whole thing works. I used to think good people always get it good in life, but I was wrong. Like you said, they get to suffer the most and it really gets to me., People play with others emotions, manipulate, bend the law and still get away with it, they become really successful and for generations their family don't get to suffer.

Those lies that were told to protect us actually made more damage than good, as adults we need to forget about them, to do a whole mindset change, and by the time you make it you have already lost a lot of opportunities out of fear.

I was always timid and reserved growing up, fearing to relate with others. It was always hard to let go of that fear and be the person I wanted to be. Whatever dream I had was shattered with stories of others who didnt do well in that field. I was told a lot of tales some of which made me reluctant and question my resolve. Im trying my best to come out of that shell. I hope i do that eventually.

I hope this generation who has been waking up to that doesn't raise their children that way. We need good people to believe that they deserve success too and to be aware that there are way too many options to get stuck in an old path that's made to create employees, not free spirits.

You've said it all my friend. I hope we learn from the mistakes of our parents and drive our children and the next generation to greater heights.

Thank you for your amazing Comment @tsunsica ..🥺❤️✅💯💙

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I hate when people lie my old man was a habitual liar, being a salesman for most of his life he lied about so many things. All the broken promises and all the phony stories or things he would say to sell somebody something. I never knew until a later age how it was a part of him and it hurt me so much anytime he lied to me especially when I knew he was lying and wouldn't admit that it the absolute worst. He has come a long way now and is pretty honest he still lies about silly things which I will never understand but at least he has the courage to tell me the truth when it is something serious.

I have always held honesty in the highest regard and I think we all should. Getting caught in a lie or lying for no good reason at all sets a horrible precedent and does something to you mentally some folks can do it on a whim without any feeling of remorse or guilt and that is from doing it all the time and getting away with it. So don't lie it's not good for the mind or body.

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I hate when people lie my old man was a habitual liar, being a salesman for most of his life he lied about so many things. All the broken promises and all the phony stories or things he would say to sell somebody something. I never knew until a later age how it was a part of him and it hurt me so much anytime he lied to me especially when I knew he was lying and wouldn't admit that it the absolute worst. He has come a long way now and is pretty honest he still lies about silly things which I will never understand but at least he has the courage to tell me the truth when it is something serious.

That's the funny thing, they keep lying to us since when we were kids till we finally grow up and now that we're grown they still try but they forget that we're wiser now so we know when they're lying to us on not. My dad used to lie about where he went with his friends, sometimes they'll go out and drink then he'll come home late at night complaining about how things went sour at work and this and that. Shii never gets old. I'm glad your dad finally understands that there's no use lying so he tells the truth.

I have always held honesty in the highest regard and I think we all should. Getting caught in a lie or lying for no good reason at all sets a horrible precedent and does something to you mentally some folks can do it on a whim without any feeling of remorse or guilt and that is from doing it all the time and getting away with it. So don't lie it's not good for the mind or body.

Some people would have flimsy excuses for lying. Like you said, when it becomes an habit they do it with feeling guilty. I feel lying is as worse as killing someone. If you can look a person in the face and fabricate stories and feel all good with yourself then you can commit murder.

Lying isn't good at all.

Thanks a lot for your amazing Comment ❤️✅

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There are many who tell lies, and get away with it (Like those in your Ss2 classes)
There are also many who, always, are honorable. As you mention in the last few paragraphs, it is better to be among the ones who are good and honorable. Your own honor, and integrity, is what you do and who you are when no one is looking. It is important to be true to yourself.

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There are also many who, always, are honorable. As you mention in the last few paragraphs, it is better to be among the ones who are good and honorable. Your own honor, and integrity, is what you do and who you are when no one is looking. It is important to be true to yourself.

This just about summarizes it well. It all has to do with how much you value your integrity and honor. Plus how you think about others. If you see them in a good light you'll never do anything to hurt them.

Thanks for the wonderful addition @bluefinstudios really appreciate you coming around ❤️✅

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At one point or the other we lied. But as grown ups, where we owe no one anything, speaking the truth is best. The person won't kill you for speaking the truth. Like you said, lies hurt and gets exposed. When it does, are we ready to lose the relationship we have built for years?. Many lie to get favor, to massage their ego or be respected. But honesty remains the best policy, regardless. Found this in PYPT. Greetings from @dreemport

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