RE: How to deal with ungrateful people everyday
Some people like a challenge. Some people like to be loved. Most people like both.
I know a lot of people in the different categories you mentioned.
There are genuinely nice people, who want the best for you. But they have nothing to offer you. They don't make you laugh. They don't have anything interesting going on. They can't entertain you. What are you supposed to do with them?
If you say they are genuinely nice, then somewhere in their personality there is a bottle holding the rest of the things you feel they cannot do.
They just haven't met someone who gives them the grounds to explore and bring out the best in them.
If they do, you will be surprised at the changes, and you will be wondering, "Where were you all these while".
I guess this is one of the things that love helps us achieve. When we are in love, there is a tendency that some beautiful qualities will emanate out of nowhere.
On the other hand, there are people pretending to be nice.
It's mostly those nice guys, who are secretly keeping score. They're not doing something because they like you and want you to feel good. They do it, so that you owe them one.
Dealing with these ones is easy. And it goes like this "Avoid the free lunch, it always has hidden obligations" so just avoid them in any way that you can't. If you can't then find a way to make them the ones indebted to you and not the other way round.
That's the whole simp and friendzone problem. They secretly resent you, because they can't believe they can't cash in their friendpoints for sex!
hahhahhahhahahaa.......I felt like laughing in Spanish. Allow these ones to stay in their bitter lane for as long as they want. If they get tired, they will find other victims. (I did not say that.....my twin did.........hehhehhee)